What Is This Thing We Call Dating? A Women's Perspective

Twenties :

My take on dating in your twenties is probably the best time for all of us. Our spontaneity is impulsive, to a degree we don’t really care what people think of us. We just want to have a good time, live for the moment. Bars, are the usual hang out that twenty year olds favor to find a boyfriend (BF).

For girls in their twenties, they usually get all decked out and head to the bars with their other girlfriends to meet guys. I would say that most of them have a blast, drinking and acting crazy, being loud, being with their friends checking out the guy scene. Some get lucky and meet someone special, maybe just for that night or they start to date. How long this relationship last is anyone’s guess and those that don’t get so lucky…keep trying.

Thirties:

Thirty is the now we have to ‘grow-up stage.’ It’s a time when responsibility kicks in for most of us. Maybe we are divorced, never married or engaged but for the singles who want to date, what are their opinions for dating?

In my opinion, bars are really not the place women want to frequent and meet someone. The preconceive notions of what to expect by going to a bar and what kind of men frequent them are etched in their minds. So the circumstances for dating changes. They might go on blind dates, get online and try to meet someone that way, maybe a church gathering or by joining a singles group. Work might be a good place to meet someone too. There could be several different scenarios but usually its not going to a bar.

Forties:

I think most of us at this age would love to be married, raising the kids, living for the minute and planning for the future. But for those single women still wishing for a significant other, where do they go to find someone? The likelihood that most forty year old women are divorced and may have kids, is pretty strong and may put a crunch on their dating options. Finding romance in your forties all depends on how active you are. If you frequent exercise gyms, play sports, maybe meet someone at work, or going back to college, blind dates set up by family and friends or online dating. The possibilities are endless. You could also meet someone through your kids, especially if they are active in sports or maybe through their school.

Fifties:

What do most people do in their fifties who want to date? I have already establish that most women don’t like to frequent bars at least not the ones that twenty years go to. Tell me something….are there bars out there for the older folks? I still think most of the scenarios still play out. Online dating I think is a hot one for this age group. Plus, maybe meeting someone at work, through friends and etc. etc…

I was single in my fifties and chose on-line dating for my option. I did meet some very nice men and some that I wasn’t attracted to. Some relationships lasted months or weeks but at least I was out there trying. Most people in their fifties are married, their kids are getting older, and planning for retirement is a main priority.

Sixties:

Are women still looking at this age for the love of their life? I can only answer this question from my perspective and point of view. At this stage in anyone’s life, to many of us are still focused on the ‘happily ever after.’ For those that have find this….hurray!!! But for those still single, widowed, divorce…do we really want or need that significant other?

Senior online sites are cropping up all over the place would suggest that yes, people are still looking. Men especially who are widowed or single, don’t do well alone and are looking. They really have a huge selection of women to choose from. I think men more then women still want that significant other at this age.

Not to diminish the outlook for women, there are many who still want a man in their life to grow old with, have a companion, intimacy, love and someone to hold them a night or share their troubles and happy times with.

In Conclusion:

Dating has been a part of our society forever and marriage is the outcome for successful dating. Our society still favors the union of marriage, its what most of us try to achieve. Dating at any age is a challenge and I hope most of the time it’s a fun venture.

Desirability and attraction is what dating is all about. Sorry, but we can’t get away from that. Its what lures us in, makes us accept this person quickly as someone we would like to date. This however, does change with age. In our twenties, we have a different pull to what attracts us and with experience and time this allure changes. For women and in my opinion, the older we get the more imperfections we will overlook in men.

I have found its so important to keep yourself looking good. Having a cute hairstyle, wearing makeup and clothes that look good on you is important no matter what type of relationship you’re in. When you feel good, your confident level shows but don’t let dating get you down.

I have dated men that are still looking for that ’Barbie doll’ who need to take a good look at themselves in the mirror… I guess we all know what they are after.

Women…don’t settle when dating…..it will merely make your life miserable and definitely not worth it. If you have to lose 30 or 40 lbs to please someone; is that love?